Archive for December, 2010

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Is Your Wedding First Class?

Is Your Wedding First Class?  Does  going “First Class” get you a better wedding  than going “Coach Class,” or maybe something else…?
Some scenes:  “First Class”

You are treated with very professional care.  You have experienced and polite vendors, in expensive & spacious surroundings for the wedding and reception.   You have comfortable seating and white linens for the table.  You have real metal silverware (not plastic) and real glassware (not plastic.)  You have knowledgeable stewards for the extensive  beverage list, and steaming hot entrees served in a multi-course dinner.  Your wine glass is never empty, and you are not rushed through the events of the day.  The flowers are fresh from the florist. The cake is huge, and fully decorated with your favorite colors with an elaborate topper. The DJ is energetic  and funny. The music is swinging, and the lighting ambiance is just right for the dance that continues sweetly into the night.

But how about Coach class?

In coach, you are surrounded by professionals also.  However, they may be attending to others in the same general area–you only have your allotted time until the next event takes place.  The venue may be a bit more crowded; after all your wedding will have lots of kids and families visiting. It is way less expensive, and there may be music and food smells wafting in all day from the other receptions happening nearby in the same facility.  The halls have limited space, so the clothing and baggage may have to be put in piles in the back room since the closet is filled to overflowing.  You dine off of paper plates and eat with plastic forks and spoons.   CDs are popped into the boom box or I-pod, and occasionally the songs get played in the wrong order.  But you are having fun, and the money you saved by flying “coach” is going to come in handy when you and your beloved go on that dream honeymoon.

For a few, there is always the “Private Jet “ Wedding:

Of course, Daddy owns the jet! The destination is an island, or a castle, or a yacht in the Caribbean.   The food, the wine, the entertainment is  flown in, or arrives by sea, or even is grown in the vicinity. Everyone is there– your cousin has  brought your favorite orchestra in from L.A., and your  dress is an expensive copy based on your grandmother’s full gown from the Forties…The guests indulge themselves for the 3 day event, floating on the nearby rivers.  It is a Paradise on earth.

Blog: Is your wedding First Class?

Bavarian River House

Carving Your Own Way:

This is a different way.  It’s a bit like a canoe trip; or a caravan of touring vans.  You create your own trip paddle to the destination with a lot of work, and invite the spirit of your family and friends to sculpt your dreams.  You find your venue in your best buddy’s back acres, in the local grange hall, or in a vineyard gifted to you by your dad’s best friend for the weekend. Your best friends make your dress.  Your mother makes the cake.  Your fishing friend delivers the king salmon to the chef.  A thousand paper cranes are made, weeks in advance, by your sisters and girlfriends. Chalices are created by your local potters and glazed with your names.  Processional music comes from your dad’s guitar or your fiancé’s heart and voice.  The guest list is full of the family and friends  who mark milestones in your life.  Stories are told and best wishes are given.  The recessional becomes a dance, inviting everyone into it.  The first waltz is played by your uncle and best guitar-playing friend. Torches are lit, and carry the light of a hundred smiles into the night air.  You have created a fantasy out of your own reality, and you are brought into the swirl of the event by the love of  the people who surround you.  It is a hand woven wedding, a gift from all….red tail farm

My point of this exercise is that everyone can have a great wedding, and you don’t have to have anyone tell you that it has to be a certain way.  You can make do on any budget and in any location.  Just be brave and listen to yourself, your fiance and your closest trusted friends.

And do choose the right photographer, who can cover all the above options, and help you out with a few new ideas:  Icicle Valley Photography 509-679-1789 or e-mail at reed@iciclevalleyphotography.com.