Weddings, as if Relationship Matters…

At the heart of weddings: Relationship!

Beneath the surface of typical wedding photography there is a story of two people becoming one in a special relationship.  The clothes, the food, the music and other trappings are just the surface of what is really happening.  There is more than the formal commitment and legal signatures.  How does the photographer reach out and discover this story?

As the photographer, I step try to step into the wedding event without upsetting the relationship dynamics.  I compose pictures, using light and the surrounding landscape to augment the unfolding story of the bride, the groom and guests.

Renee & Jeremy

Married

The First Toast

The toast that is passed around to all the friends.

Passing the "Boot"

The cake that gives us some sweet joy.

It  is hard to photograph a relationship. So…how do I  picture… a heart?

How do I capture intimacy? What is the real teddy bear story in sister’s toast?

How do I capture a parent’s whispers during the dance?

This is my job…to document the wedding in photos. Other may do it in videos, in poetry and prose, and if you are lucky, in your very own song written for your ceremony and first dance as a married couple.

Good photographers can find their way into making of great relationship photographs.  We can open the door that shows the one heart beating and talking to the other.  This is a special place and a precious place; a place to hold reverently.  I welcome the occasion. I am honored to be present in a sometimes intensely personal moment.  Then there is enough trust between myself and the couple, the relationship shines, telling a very rich story…

These are the images that stay arround and define our lives.   These images will last. They are the glimpses to the future, and they are our identity with the past.

These photos are the ”Glimpses of the Heart.”

This Time, My Wedding is Going Be Different…

A recent bride/client of mine came to me with a comment:  ”My first wedding we did all the wrong stuff:  the endless posed and trite pictures of dozens of groups, my hair in a huge set of curls that took hours to complete, a three foot high cake with 10 pounds of frosting, a two minute ceremony with no real content, and  the obnoxious loud DJ.  This time we are going to do it different.”

This time our wedding is going to dwell in the moment.  We are going to surround ourselves with family & friends and honor them.  They have come long distances to be with us.  We want to create a special place for them, where they can form a circle of warmth around us.  We want to look into their faces and hear their voices.  We want to be serenaded with their instruments, and listen to their song. We want to listen to their stories about us, their joyful toasts, and their dreams for us.

Gathering in The Quail Room

We want a simple wedding, a meaningful wedding.  We want our pastor friend  to officiate, and to talk with us, not just “marry us.”  We want our fathers to bless  us, join us and bless us in their own way.  I want my mother to be taken care of, and not work all day!  We want a remote very private location, with great hospitality.  We will have just our closest family & friends, and we want them to be with us for not a couple of hours, but a couple of days.

We will have a great feast after the wedding; we will sample the richness of the local harvest.  We will have a diversity of foods for the diversity of our friends.  We want to have the best chef in the village, listen to our ideas, and create a special meal event that will not be duplicated for anyone else .

We will have photographs of the events of the day.  All the special unique things  that are not documented on other days. Before the ceremony, we will explore the surroundings of the venue, and take time with each other.   We want the ceremony, and reception visually documented, so that the pictures can be keys to remembering all the little things.  We want the children in our lives to be in the photos, so that they can be frozen for  an instant, being children.

And we want to have photos just of us, alone, showing our love and joy of each other.  We to be natural, not posed, not styled, and prompted, but encouraged to be ourselves, so  that our children can see us and understand us forever…

Is Your Wedding First Class?

Is Your Wedding First Class?  Does  going “First Class” get you a better wedding  than going “Coach Class,” or maybe something else…?
Some scenes:  “First Class”

You are treated with very professional care.  You have experienced and polite vendors, in expensive & spacious surroundings for the wedding and reception.   You have comfortable seating and white linens for the table.  You have real metal silverware (not plastic) and real glassware (not plastic.)  You have knowledgeable stewards for the extensive  beverage list, and steaming hot entrees served in a multi-course dinner.  Your wine glass is never empty, and you are not rushed through the events of the day.  The flowers are fresh from the florist. The cake is huge, and fully decorated with your favorite colors with an elaborate topper. The DJ is energetic  and funny. The music is swinging, and the lighting ambiance is just right for the dance that continues sweetly into the night.

But how about Coach class?

In coach, you are surrounded by professionals also.  However, they may be attending to others in the same general area–you only have your allotted time until the next event takes place.  The venue may be a bit more crowded; after all your wedding will have lots of kids and families visiting. It is way less expensive, and there may be music and food smells wafting in all day from the other receptions happening nearby in the same facility.  The halls have limited space, so the clothing and baggage may have to be put in piles in the back room since the closet is filled to overflowing.  You dine off of paper plates and eat with plastic forks and spoons.   CDs are popped into the boom box or I-pod, and occasionally the songs get played in the wrong order.  But you are having fun, and the money you saved by flying “coach” is going to come in handy when you and your beloved go on that dream honeymoon.

For a few, there is always the “Private Jet “ Wedding:

Of course, Daddy owns the jet! The destination is an island, or a castle, or a yacht in the Caribbean.   The food, the wine, the entertainment is  flown in, or arrives by sea, or even is grown in the vicinity. Everyone is there– your cousin has  brought your favorite orchestra in from L.A., and your  dress is an expensive copy based on your grandmother’s full gown from the Forties…The guests indulge themselves for the 3 day event, floating on the nearby rivers.  It is a Paradise on earth.

Blog: Is your wedding First Class?

Carving Your Own Way:

This is a different way.  It’s a bit like a canoe trip; or a caravan of touring vans.  You create your own trip paddle to the destination with a lot of work, and invite the spirit of your family and friends to sculpt your dreams.  You find your venue in your best buddy’s back acres, in the local grange hall, or in a vineyard gifted to you by your dad’s best friend for the weekend. Your best friends make your dress.  Your mother makes the cake.  Your fishing friend delivers the king salmon to the chef.  A thousand paper cranes are made, weeks in advance, by your sisters and girlfriends. Chalices are created by your local potters and glazed with your names.  Processional music comes from your dad’s guitar or your fiancé’s heart and voice.  The guest list is full of the family and friends  who mark milestones in your life.  Stories are told and best wishes are given.  The recessional becomes a dance, inviting everyone into it.  The first waltz is played by your uncle and best guitar-playing friend. Torches are lit, and carry the light of a hundred smiles into the night air.  You have created a fantasy out of your own reality, and you are brought into the swirl of the event by the love of  the people who surround you.  It is a hand woven wedding, a gift from all….

My point of this exercise is that everyone can have a great wedding, and you don’t have to have anyone tell you that it has to be a certain way.  You can make do on any budget and in any location.  Just be brave and listen to yourself, your fiance and your closest trusted friends.

And do choose the right photographer, who can cover all the above options, and help you out with a few new ideas:  Icicle Valley Photography 509-679-1789 or e-mail at reed@iciclevalleyphotography.com.

Of Babes, Brides and Barbie’s

Isis is Her Name

In a singular moment, the call comes: “We had the baby! Isis is her name, and it is time to make the photos.”  Only a few days old little Isis arrives in the studio with a happy, but weary mom, and a radiant dad.  “We found some leaves on the way down the canyon, and we thought these could be in the pictures.”  

Isis--At Thirteen Days

Luckily, I had set up the lights and done some testing the day before, as well as found an appropriate table, cushions and soft drop clothes for backdrop.   What I did not count on was Isis’s short  attention span — a 13 day old does not have much patience  for the rest of the world. The time that we had was measured in seconds, not minutes and hours. We took breaks for food, rest, and attitude adjustment.   Fascinated with the bright lights, with Mom’s embrace, and in Dad’s large hands, Isis struggled through the shoot; the star of the show got increasingly bored with our infatuation of her.  After all was done, I realize that I am thankful for quick digital cameras, the speed of flash lighting, and a great family.

A Traditional Wedding

Tara & Kris had a traditional wedding for their special day at Mountain Springs Lodge  in Plain, Washington.  They had a gorgeous sunny day, and the evening winds did not blow enough to disrupt the ceremony.  Mountain Springs had exquisite service as usual, and coordinator, Jamie Newell, carefully helped the party to create a relaxed and meaningful time, sequestered in the quiet valley.

Tara & Kris

A relaxed, private moment after the ceremony is over…. 

The View of the Valley from the Reception

Not Really a “Barbie”

Heidi loves the Cascades, having grown up spending summers at Holden Village, near Lake Chelan.  Heidi wanted her senior pictures to be taken with a mountain scenic background behind her.  So she planned a trip, with mom, over the mountains to have her photos taken. 

Heidi on the banks of the Wenatchee River

 

Leavenworth was perfect for scenic backgrounds; we have plenty of rivers and mountains, woods and rustic bridges!

We started in the parks near downtown Leavenworth, visited the old steel bridge in Tumwater Canyon, and ended up near a fishing pond close to town.  As with all teenagers, she wanted lots of pictures.   She is not really a “Barbie,” but she does have the classic looks with long blonde hair, and a gracious smile.